Expert Insights
Family wellbeing - it's an emotional life
Published 4th November 2019
Do you ever feel as if you and your family are on a daily emotional roller coaster ride?!
If you do that's probably because to a greater or lesser degree, we all are. Every day, minute-by-minute our emotions change, we can sometimes experience as many as 400-500 emotions in any given day.
Affecting every area of our lives our emotions have a big impact on our mental and physical health, our ability to learn, to concentrate and to make wise choices. It’s a good idea then to learn to use our emotions intelligently from an early age.
Good examples of this are when your child’s feeling anxious or worried about exams it can be very hard for them to knuckle down to endless practice papers, or when they feeling isolated or lonely because of a friendship issue at school it’s difficult for them to concentrate on focused revision and homework.
Our emotions have a way of hijacking our heads as they take over our thoughts and become our primary concern.
So how do we help our children to overcome tricky times?
If you were to ask any parent what they most want for their child, the answer would most certainly and understandably be that they want their child to be happy.
We all want happy, content, easygoing children, children who find life a breeze and face every day with a positive spring in their step. However, life throws us all many different challenges and uncomfortable distressing and hard emotions are a part of our contract with living a valuable life.
Makin habits out of feeling frustrated, anxious or sad can be disempowering and prevent us from doing what we’re best capable of.
How well we navigate the tough times determines how happy and successful we are in the short term and long term too.
As loving parents, our instinct is to jump to the rescue when difficulties arise for our children. We want to prevent them from experiencing hardship and suffering as it's tough to watch them struggle on their own and much easier to step in, remove the obstacles if we can and make it all better.
It has to be said that times of perceived failure and discomfort are often the greatest learning opportunities for our children if we let them be.
This is when Emotional Intelligence comes in
Helping your child develop their Emotional Intelligence from an early age is important for their long-term happiness and wellbeing; it is also a key life skill and an important part of the workplace now and in the future.
Our E.I. is made up of many different components, the main ones recognised by a majority of those that ‘know' conclude that to be emotionally intelligent you need to be-
Emotional Intelligence measures a person's social competences, their ability to interact and work well within a team, their ability to persevere even when times get rough.
Guiding and teaching children to grow their emotional intelligence skills from when they are young will provide them with the essential qualities that they need to have well-balanced lives.
These skills will help them to manage difficult situations, establish strong lasting relationships and develop empathy and understanding towards themselves and others throughout their lives.
So, the next time your daughter or son is struggling with an uncomfortable emotion start developing their Emotional Intelligence by asking them the following questions-
Over time and with your support and patience your children will develop their emotional intelligence skills and learn to understand themselves and others better in order to make the best out of almost any situation!
Should you feel that you could benefit from a consultation with myself in relation anything you have read in this blog post, please do free to get in touch.
Best wishes,
Lulu